Adoptive or foster parents often believe they have failed and blame themselves for their child's violent or aggressive behaviour. It's important that professionals are 'trauma aware' and do not reinforce these feelings. Edwina Grant talks to Christine Gordon and Karen Wallace of Adapt Scotland about caring for those who care for children who exhibit violent or aggressive behaviour. They explore the reasons for these behaviours, the impact on family life and coping strategies.
How do we deal with trauma? Most of us have a reference point for what is 'safe' which allows us to make sense of traumatic events (for example a car crash) and provides a framework to deal with it. Looked after or adoptive children often have no such reference point which makes it difficult for them and their parents to deal with trauma.